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The dreaded “C” word

There it is, finally an answer to the burning question.

For MONTHS our regular vet has been telling us our Siamese’s wheezing was just allegries, and I foolishly believed him. Finally one day when Momo could hardly breathe I had enough and called a specialty hospital 45 mins away from home that is able to do emergency medicine and has an oncology department. I made an appointment and brought him in. After a physical exam and an MRI we had our answer CANCER in his left nostral.

Then comes the next question; how hard do we fight? We have no children so our cats are our substitue children. They are spoiled rotten and we go to great lengths to make sure they are healthy, happy and get (at least most) of what they want. But chemo is expensive; $500 a pop expensive and my guess is we waited too long to be able to actually get it in to remission.

We are in the middle of this journey, we are chasing health for him. When he has his chemo he feels good, he’s a royal brat and back to the old Momo we know and love. But when the cancer comes roaring back in a couple of weeks he is miserable and we HATE seeing him like that. My husband is ready to stop chemo, it’s getting too expensive and I agree but maybe there is another answer? At least until we are aren’t getting 2 weeks between treatments anymore.

So what have we learned from this journey?

  1. Trust your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, if whatever it is feels like it’s going on too long get a second opinion, it doesn’t hurt it can only confirm what you are being told.
  2. Try to balance quality of life with cost. This is a tough one since if you’re like me he’s not going down with out a mama bear fight. Only you know what you’re finances look like and what the quality of life will be.
  3. You need to find the balance that is right for you. You are the only ones that can determine that.
  4. Don’t let it wreck your relationship. Finances are one of the number one reasons for partner fights, and newsflash your pet (unfortunately) will likely not out live you even if they do live to a ripe old age. You will have that partner for much longer. Find a way to get on the same page, make a compromise, whatever you need to do.
  5. Plan for the future. This is a difficult one for us since we are dealing with cancer the likely hood is that we will have to use euthanasia to end his suffering eventually but, you can think about how you want your cat’s final days to be. Do you want to take them to a favorite place. When the time comes do you want the lights low and low music (if allowed). I think there is power in the planning where if you set things they way you want, or way you think you’re kitty would want, it takes some of the power out of the uncertainty.
  6. Finally after they cross the rainbow bridge where do you want their final resting place? Do you want to bury them in a favorite garden or choose cremation and keep the ashes?
    The choice is yours

How do you remember remember your furbabies that have crossed the rainbow bridge?
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One thought on “The dreaded “C” word

  1. I’m so sorry. Our fur babies mean the world to us and our hearts break when we can’t fix what ails them. You share great tips about the next steps. My son and his girlfriend recently lost both their cats to illness – one had cancer. They were 16 years old and as hard as they tried for life, their time had come. It was the first big loss they had shared between them – they’ve been together since high school so hadn’t even experienced a break up. The pain in my son’s voice as he shared their loss with me was heartbreaking. Love them as long as you can and when the time comes let them go in peace. Hugs.

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