Two words. YOU DON’T
BUT time will lessen the pain.
We recently had to put our beloved Momo to sleep, I talk about it in the ‘euthenasia-a change in perspective‘ blog. So with the topic fresh on my mind, here are a few tips to help you through the loss of you furrbaby.
There are a few things you can do to help yourself through the process.
1. Be kind to yourself.
You are mourning a family member.
Eating healthy food will give your body the energy it needs, and exercise releases endorphins that can improve your mood. Besides that just say do what feels right. If it means ball in up and crying your eyes out, do that. If you have someone that is just a good listener, just talking about the good times can be theraputic. Whatever you have to do to move yourself through the grief and out the other side.
2. Hold a funeral
For Snickerdoodle we were actually temporarily living away from home so we had her cremated. Then when we came home we had a funeral which consisted of burying most of her ashes in the garden and crying a lot. I would have loved to say how much we loved her, and how much of an awsome cat she was (and maybe we did) and how much we would miss her but it’s tough to cry and talk at the same time.
3. Consider getting another cat. When you are ready, (and only when you are ready.)
When our beloved Snickerdoodle passed away it was rough. She was our baby girl, our beloved daughter and we missed everything about her.
Within a couple of months the emptiness started to get to me and I was missing having a furrball around. I wasn’t looking to replace her but I needed a cat in my life; my husband on the other hand took longer. Snickerdoodle was a daddy’s little girl through and through and they were thick as thieves so understandably it took him longer to work through the grieving proccess. I had to be patient and respect the fact that he was still grieving and not ready to welcome a new life in to our family. It took about 4 months before he could start thinking about a new daughter, and when we were ready, we welcomed our son Momo.
Remember that grief is a PROCESS! There is no way to rush through it, no way to short cut it (as much as we would love to I’m sure). Yes it’s painful, yes it’s hard, but pushing you’re feelings down, ingoring them and not adressing the grief is worse. Do the work, be kind to yourself in the process, and remember with time things will get better.
Our Forever Pet
There’s something missing in our home.
We feel it day and night.
We know it will take time and strength
Before things feel quite right.
But just for now, we need to mourn,
Our hearts-they need to mend.
Though some may say it’s “just a pet”
We know we’ve lost a friend.
You’ve brought such laughter to our home,
and richness to our day…
A constant friend through joy or loss
With gentle loving ways.
Companion, pal and confidante,
A friend we won’t forget,
You’ll live for always in our hearts,
Our sweet forever pet.